Your Balanced Lifestyle: What’s missing?

puzzle-balanced-lifestyleIf you were to do a quick evaluation of your life right now, how would it look?

Do you have a balanced lifestyle? What’s missing? Are you struggling in any particular life area?  Are you taking time out for you? Nurturing love and intimacy with your partner? Taking time to foster a strong bond with your family? Having fun? Keeping up with managing your homelife, money as well as career? Do you feel like there is a certain area of your life that could be improved?

A downfall, issue, or ‘gap’ in one area of your life can have a big impact on the rest of your life and can lead to an imbalanced lifestyle! Also, if you’re focusing on what’s missing, it seems difficult to see a way out, and often, people tend to focus on the problem and be overwhelmed by it to a point where it’s difficult to see a solution.

It doesn’t have to be hard to make a change. The idea is to start changes in baby steps so you’re not overwhelmed. Consider the below questions:

  • What do you feel is missing in your life right now? What life area do you feel you are neglecting or having problems with and therefore impacting the rest of your life?

  • WHY do you think you’re having an issue in that particular life area? What do you think is the cause?

  • What’s been your resistance, or road block to change your situation up until now?

  • What would be the ideal end result if you rectified the situation? How would you feel?

So, nothing is going to change unless you do. What can you do different? And, you need to be willing to step outside your comfort zone to do different – if you want a change bad enough you need to be prepared to put some effort in, but, baby steps will make a huge positive difference because a little change consistently is much better than doing nothing at all.

  • What very small task, if you did consistently EVERY DAY would counteract your situation and make a big difference? Aim for a change that will take you just 5 – 10 mins a day.

For example, if you tend to put everyone else first and have no time out for you and feel exhausted or resentful as a result, taking a walk for 10 minutes a day will help enormously. If you are having problems with your relationship with your partner, taking a ‘technology free’ 10 minutes a day to chat with your partner will make a difference by slowly reconnecting. The same will be for your family, make the time to spare 10 minutes a day, tv, computers, ipads etc etc off… have  quick game of cards together once a day, just something that will help connect. Are you lacking fun in your life? A few years ago I set myself a challenge to do a fun activity once a day and posted my activities on facebook to keep myself accountable – I did belly dancing, playing on a flyer fox, made paper mache faces etc – you don’t have to go to that extreme, but think of something fun that won’t consume your time and just do it each day! 10 minutes a day clearing your clutter at home will clear up physical and mental space you didn’t know was there! 10 minutes a day to make a contact for your business, or posting something online to sell will make a difference to your career and money life areas – in a month that would mean 30 contacts, or possible 30 items sold!

‘Fill the gap’ by doing something, even if only 10 minutes a day you will experience a positive impact in your life in an astounding way, it creates a mental shift where you may be feeling helpless, to a position where you are taking responsibility and doing something about it and feeling good and proud of yourself because of it. The changes need only be small, but the results will be big because you are getting into the habit of incorporating change. 10 minutes a day gives you a kick start, doesn’t impinge on your time, is enough time to make a difference and will give you confidence and motivation to take on other challenges as you realise getting a balanced lifestyle doesn’t have to be hard!


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Kerry Townsend

Kerry Townsend, owner and Director of, public speaker and published author of ‘FREE Your Time', ‘Mother's Essential Personal Toolkit', ‘Mother's Essential Romance Toolkit' and creator of Life Balance Magnets,is a life coach that specialises in helping mothers from all walks of life. Kerry is a wife and mother that understands the challenges of juggling family and career, and the importance of life balance to maintain health and sanity. is a website which Offers support for mothers via books, eBooks, products and resources, helping mums to manage time effectively, achieve work life balance and create the life they want.

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