Perspective Through A Child’s Eyes

Little boy is considering perspective while sitting on couchMany of us struggle with feelings that we’d rather not experience.  These can range from a mild feeling of boredom or feeling ‘flat’ to severe anxiety and depression. None of these feelings are pleasant, and all of them can be debilitating, both emotionally and physically. Now add being a parent to the mix and you probably find yourself overwhelmed, exhausted and lost.

The positive news is that you have the power to alter your thoughts and change your perspective. There are several strategies that you can use to change how you think (called cognitive reframing), which you can use by yourself or with the help of a therapist.

Wikipedia (what doesn’t it know?) states that perspective (cognitive) is a “point of view, the choice of a context or opinions, beliefs and experiences”. That’s right – a choice. We can choose how we think, how we react and how we live. Our perspective in relation to people, challenges and opportunities can greatly impact outcomes. Thought processes can also affect our health and how others see us.

To me, there is nothing better than a childs’ insight on life to give us a little bit of perspective on our own lives.

While recently boarding a plane to go to Sydney, I was focused on the destination and everything I needed to organise once I was there. My 5 year old son however, was living more in the moment:

“I am so glad we are finally getting off the ground, I’ve spent my whole life on the ground so far”.

Sometimes we forget to enjoy what we are doing right now and how amazing what we are doing right now really is.

Here is some more wisdom from a 5 year old:

ON CONFIDENCE:

“I’m pretty good at break dancing, I mean not good like on the TV but it feels good, so I must be good”

ON ENTHUSIASM:

“It’s not that I didn’t want to listen to you, it’s just that my legs were so busy running, I didn’t have time to tell them to stop”

ON SELF CONTROL:

“Now brain, I’m tired and I can’t tell you what to do all the time. You need to stop being loud brain”.  At which point, I intervened the self-talk and told him that he can actually control his brain. The look of astonishment was followed by “Really? Do people know this?”

ON BEAUTY

“Rainbow lorikeets are beautiful, spiders are beautiful too but people are too scared to see how beautiful”

It’s liberating to let yourself view life from a different perspective; to feel confident, enthusiastic, beautiful and in control of your brain.

By Jacqueline Potter

 

Jacqueline Potter

Jacqueline is a psychotherapist who specialises in counselling women and girls. She is also a mother, mentor and advocate of positive self image. She understands that everyone faces challenges and while the challenges can't always be changed, perceptions can. Jacqueline is passionate about the empowerment of others and aims to remove guilt and anxiety with proven tools and empathy.

Jacqueline is the author of the eBook, Cirque du Mummy, an entertaining and honest summary of the realities of motherhood. She is currently writing a book detailing her challenging history, with the goal of helping others overcome struggles. Jacqueline completed her BSc (Psych) at the University of Southern Queensland and is a member of the Australian and New Zealand Mental Health Association. Jacqueline's Avidity Association office is located in Paddington, Queensland and she is available for counselling, group therapy or mentoring in her office and Skype or phone counselling within Australia.

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