Here are a few of the best habits to develop to nailing that important interview:
1. Get Curious
The biggest mistake people make when it comes to listening is they’re so focused on what they’re going to say next. The words come through loud and clear, but the meaning is lost.
A simple way to avoid this is to ask questions. People like to know you’re listening, and something as simple as a clarifying question shows that not only are you listening, you also care about what they’re saying.
2. Put Away Your Phone
Nothing will turn someone off like a mid-conversation text message or even a quick glance at your phone. You will find that conversations are more enjoyable and effective when you immerse yourself in them. When you commit to a conversation, focus all of your energy on the conversation… If you have a deadline, and need to fly or need to check the time, simply say that ‘you are interested in what they were saying and could you make another time in the near future, (and be specific) so you are not so rushed’.
3. Be Genuine
Being genuine and honest is essential to being likable and appearing agreeable without actually agreeing. No one likes a fake. People gravitate toward those who are genuine because they know they can trust them.
By concentrating on what drives you and makes you happy as an individual, you become a much more interesting person than if you attempt to win people over by making choices that you think will make them like you. You will also be more relaxed; another nice quality to be around.
4. Don’t Pass Judgment
Having an open mind is crucial in the workplace where approachability means access to new ideas and help. To eliminate preconceived notions and judgment is tricky, this doesn’t mean you agree with their behaviour, it simply means you pause long enough to try to understand them.
5. Use confident Body Language
Becoming cognizant of your gestures, expressions, and tone of voice will draw people to you. Using an enthusiastic tone, uncrossing your arms, maintaining eye contact, and leaning towards the person who’s speaking are all forms of positive body language that high-EQ people use to draw others in. Positive body language can make all the difference in a conversation.
6. Leave a Strong First Impression
Research shows most people decide whether or not they like you within the first seven seconds of meeting you. First impressions are tied intimately to positive body language. Strong posture, a firm handshake, smiling, and opening your shoulders to the person you are talking to will help ensure that your first impression is a good one.
People naturally (and unconsciously) mirror the body language of the person they’re talking to. If you want people to like you, smile at them during a conversation and they will unconsciously return the favour and feel good as a result.
7. Greet People by Name
Research shows that people feel validated when the person they’re speaking with refers to them by name during a conversation. Not too often though.
When you meet someone, don’t be afraid to ask their name a second time if you forget it right after you hear it.
Employee relationships and staff retention are important to every organisation, a prospective employee will want to gauge how you might fit and make some value judgements on how you will behave if there are any workplace disputes in the future.
Likeable people are invaluable and unique. They network with ease, promote harmony in the workplace, bring out the best in everyone around them, and generally seem to have the most fun. Add these skills to your repertoire and watch your likability soar along with your chances of securing those important interviews.
Discover some vital clues and tips towards having more influence in your workplace by calling for a confidential chat. More tips on leadership qualities next month.
Source: Talent Smart Research Data and Keystone Skills and Compassionate Communication.
Glyn is passionate about communicating the truth with care. She realised an unclaimed source of her own energy is when she can free herself from guilt. Once this freedom is reached she found she could think and communicate more simply and clearly with the courage to ask for what she wanted. Glyn now enables others to more easily have their message heard and the listener more readily agrees to their requests.