Firstly, determine what your personal mental schema (kind of a mental blueprint) is.
Where do you feel you should be in your life (i.e. – successful business owner, mother of 5, fit and strong etc)
Write it down.
Does how you are currently living your life match your schema? If not, you will either have a sense of mild anxiety/stress or deep depression (depending on how great the disconnect between your current life and your schema is).
Addressing this can be daunting, however, rather than observing the disconnect as insurmountable, you are giving yourself the opportunity to make changes. The changes either need to be to your schema (conceptual framework) or your current life situations. If you cannot change your life situation (i.e. being in a wheelchair) then you adapt your schema. (i.e. I cannot run a marathon, but I can train others in how to become motivated and what tools they need, which in turn gets me excited and fulfilled)
When you determine the disconnect, allow yourself to change what you can and be excited about the opportunities – you remove the anxiety or depression and make progress!
Please share this so you can help others do the same.
Jacqueline is the author of the eBook, Cirque du Mummy, an entertaining and honest summary of the realities of motherhood. She is currently writing a book detailing her challenging history, with the goal of helping others overcome struggles. Jacqueline completed her BSc (Psych) at the University of Southern Queensland and is a member of the Australian and New Zealand Mental Health Association. Jacqueline's Avidity Association office is located in Paddington, Queensland and she is available for counselling, group therapy or mentoring in her office and Skype or phone counselling within Australia.